15 Everyday Phrases to Help Raise Kind, Emotionally Aware Humans (Big and Small)

By Emily Hanlon

The way we speak to our kids becomes their inner voice. It teaches them how to set boundaries, how to relate to others, and how to treat themselves. The good news? You don’t need a degree in psychology to raise emotionally intelligent humans; you just need a few intentional, everyday phrases that reinforce kindness, consent, respect, and safety.

Here are 15 simple sentences we use in our home (with our little humans and grown-up ones too) to help create connection and emotional resilience.

1. “It’s okay to feel angry, but it’s not okay to be unkind.”

We want our kids to know all feelings are valid, but not all behaviours are acceptable. This sentence teaches emotional regulation without shame.

2. “All families do things differently, and that’s okay.”

Comparison starts young. This phrase fosters respect for differences and reduces unnecessary pressure to conform.

3. “Our bodies are only for us. Our bodies are personal.”

This teaches consent, autonomy, and body safety, starting with a simple truth.

4. “We don’t make comments about other people’s bodies.”

Even casual observations can hurt. This phrase builds body respect from the start and teaches kids that kindness matters more than curiosity.

5. “You don’t have to like the same things as your friends.”

Peer pressure isn’t just a teen issue. This phrase normalises individuality and encourages self-trust.

6. “It’s okay to like different things.”

A reminder that it’s safe to be yourself, even when others don’t share your passions.

7. “You don’t have to be close friends with everyone, but you do have to treat everyone with kindness.”

This is about healthy social boundaries, kindness without forced closeness. It’s a skill most adults could use, too.

8. “Even if that means walking away before we say something that may be unkind.”

This add-on encourages kids to pause before they react, and that sometimes, space is the kindest thing we can give.

9. “When someone says ‘stop’ or ‘no,’ we listen, always.”

Clear and powerful. This teaches the core of consent and respect for others' boundaries.

10. “Make choices that help your body feel safe and strong.”

Empowering kids to listen to their bodies and honour their own safety signals. It’s also a gentle prompt to care for themselves holistically.

11. “Saying ‘sorry’ is a start. Showing you’re sorry matters more.”

Accountability isn't about words alone, it’s about action. This phrase sets a lifelong foundation for repairing relationships meaningfully.

12. “It’s perfectly okay to have hard days or big feelings.”

Normalising tough emotions helps kids build resilience, and shows them they’re still loved when things feel messy.

13. “Never be afraid to ask me for help. I’m here for you, always.”

Reinforces safety and open communication. Your child needs to know they can come to you, no matter what.

14. “Do you want advice, or do you just need someone to listen?”

My favourite one on the list...A game-changer for every relationship, child, teen, or adult. This teaches emotional awareness, agency, and mutual respect.

15. “You are an important part of this family.”

Because belonging isn’t just a feeling, it’s a knowing. This statement reminds your child of their place, their worth, and their value.

Raising Kind Humans Starts With Us. The truth is, these phrases aren’t magic, they’re just intentional. But over time, they become the foundation of emotional safety, confidence, and connection. And the best part? You can start today. Choose one or two, practice them often, and watch the ripple effect in your family. Let your kids borrow your words until they find their own. Make sure those words are kind, respectful, and powerful.

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